Thursday, September 29, 2011

Discipline Of The Parent Kind

To the non-parent folks out there, I apologize in advance for this snooze fest.

As you are aware, I am the proud parent of an almost 2 year old.  We are officially in the stage of attitude, personality, tantrums and the remarkable pout.  I sometimes have to turn away as I do not want her to catch me cracking a smile or laughing at some of these "episodes," but folks let's be honest, some of them are just down right funny.  Others, make me want to run away to a far away land filled with wine, cheese and chocolate, a beach and an ocean.

I have without a doubt filled the disciplinarian role in our household so far.  I spend more time with Mia so it's just worked out that way.  The hubs works a ton, so when they are together it's all rainbows, unicorns and puffy hearts.  Not so much with me.  It's not all bad, believe me, most of it is happy and fun, but there are some challenging days and even more ahead of me.

As we were watching the Cardinals clinch the NL Wild Card playoff spot last night (WOOHOO!), in bed, we were chatting.  Hubs made a comment in discussing Mia, that all I ever say to her is things like "No," "Be Careful," etc.  He said a lot of what I say to Mia is sometimes negative and like she is always in trouble.  Well, excuuuuuse me (best Mom voice, with a hint of major attitude)!  I don't critique his discipline techniques, or lack there of and I'm not sure I appreciated him critiquing mine. It made me realize that we are really not on the same page here, which was pretty disappointing and upsetting.  We are still very new at this whole parenting thing and up until the last few months discipline has not been part of the picture.  We'll get there, together, there is no question.  It's just another bump in the road of marriage and raising a child.  It did make me think though, am I doing "it" all wrong???  It makes me question my success as a parent.  At the end of the day I know it is my responsibility that she learn right from wrong.  She needs to know that as much as I would love to give her the world, that is not how life works.  She is the center of everyone's universe in our families and is constantly being given things.  I want to be sure she stays grounded and appreciates what she has.  She's only 2 and I get that, but I feel like you have to start somewhere.

I'm pretty sure someone needs to tell her that it's not ok to jump from the couch to the ottoman right next to our brick fireplace.  Just sayin.'

Suggestions? Advice?  Do share!

Have a great Thursday!!

Friday, September 23, 2011

You Know What's Pretty Awesome?

Finding awesome people like Kristen out in blog universe.  I just love how talented and creative so many of you are.

I've been a follower of her blog for some time and as any good supportive follower should do, I liked her Facebook page for her company Little Laws Prints too.

So as I was beginning to get my thoughts together for Mia's 2nd birthday, I thought I would give her a shout for the invitations.  Her response time was awesome and her design was adorable and just perfect for what I was thinking.  There are not many options when it comes to searching for invitations of the Halloween theme for a toddler.

I love doing fun, creative birthday invitations, with a picture during these early years.  They are so fun and unique and will of course make great keepsakes.

So need something special? Or just want to see what she has to offer.  You should.  Jump on over and see what she is all about.  A sample of the invitation is on her home page.  And her the cutest too :)

Our invitations are shipping Monday!  I can't wait to see them in person!  Let the Halloween Costume Birthday Party planning begin (or shall I say continue cause let's be honest I'm on Pinterest and it's like the mecca for planning a party).

Have a great weekend!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Wanna See Somethin?'

So I got a sneaky peeky of Mia's 2 pictures taken by my amazing photographer sister this morning!  I had to get one over to Kristen at Little Laws Prints so she can finish Mia's birthday party invitations (caaaaan't wait!).

Thought I would share a few.

Ridiculous!  I can't wait to see the rest!

She's mine, all mine and just I love that little girl!

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Wordless Wednesday - Because Seriously, Quite Seriously

Who doesn't love a yummy toddler in a cute lil get up getting all excited about seeing big balloons.

Monday, September 19, 2011


You know what's so great about having a super handsy hubs?

This little number that I came across courtesy of Pinterest.

This may make the fact that a toddler bed is on the horizon a bit easier for Mommy.  I just may campout underneath for a while.

How freakin' cute is this?

Now how to convince the hubs that this is a project so worth investing all that free time we have.

Courtesy of

Friday, September 16, 2011

Play Nice Ladies

I've been contemplating this topic for quite some time.  How to write about it and avoid pissing making anyone angry, but it's time.  I need some word vomit action, so

This past weekend during my vodka induced girly talk at the casino, one of the women I was with assumed something.  Her assumption was hurtful.  It really, really was.  It takes a lot to break this girl, but if you judge me because of how I choose to raise my daughter then you've officially pissed me off.  Assuming I stayed home, she made a comment, "they just don't get it."  Speaking of women who leave their children to a job every day.  And breathe....

In the era of women, powerful, strong women, there is a whole lotta judgement going on.  Why?  Why is it that women, as a sex, are not more supportive of one another?  This is not a competition, nor should it be.  Your successes should be your successes.  You deserve the credit you earn.  We shouldn't strive to be better than one another.  I see a lot of this in the Working Mom versus the Stay At Home Mom.  Who's really working the hardest?  Are you freakin' kidding me??  Listen folks, I get it.  I do.  I understand that there are days that Working Mommas wish they could be home with their kids and I also understand that there are days that SAHM's long for some adult conversation and time away from home.  I get it.  I do.  But let's not judge.  I don't judge you because you stay at home and get to be with your child more than I get to be with mine, so don't judge me for deciding to keep my career and be a Mom.  I don't judge you because you don't have children, so don't judge me or try to understand me because I do.  I used to be bitter.  I used to be mad.  I still have my moments of weakness; I will never claim to be perfect.

But now, just a month and a half from Mia's 2nd birthday, I've learned.  I've learned a lot.  I've come a long way since those first few months back at work where I felt like a piece of shit because I was not home with my daughter.  I've come a long way from those days of guilt.  I've learned that there is a balance in life, no matter which route you take.  At every stage of life there is another lesson to be learned.  Always.  Is the grass always greener, I think so.  I won't lie.  But in all honesty, do we really know if we don't walk those shoes?  There are so many factors into the decisions that each and every individual makes in regards to raising their children and living their life.  That is THEIR choice.  Not ours.  Not ours to pass judgement on.

As a mother, just trying to build my career into something successful and something I can look back on and be proud of, I have a girl to raise.  A beautiful, smart and fragile girl to raise, in a very crazy world.  She's a sponge.  She's taking in every word and action around her.

Women are strong beings.  Women are foundations of families.  The judgement that continues to grow is only going to prevent our children from being who they want to be because they are concerned with one thing...and that's what others will think.  Aaaaahhhh.  No.  That is not how it should be.  We want our kids to dream big and we should want to support them every step of the way.  Let them learn for themselves, decide for themselves and form their own opinions.  Are we here as their guides, absolutely.  Are we here to pour the foundation, 100%.

So I just ask, for me and for Mia, be nice.  Play nice.  And support each other.  I don't care what you do for a living, whether you have a child, don't have a child, stay at home or go to a job everyday.  I just ask that you offer something positive to the world.  Promote positive actions and support, especially to the women in and out of your life, each other.  Whether it be someone you interact with on a daily basis, a blogger you follow, a random women in a store or whatever.  Give them a smile, pay them a compliment, contribute to filling their happy bucket.  Because after all we don't need any bucket dippers (in the words of my niece as she told me about what she is learning in 1st grade).

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Wordless (Kinda) Wednesday - There's A Teensy Bit Left

There was just a sliver of summer left in the air yesterday and for a few hours after work Mia and I colored outside with chalk.  She was a sweaty colorful mess by the end and even though we had to strip down before re-entering the house, I'll be wishing these days back very soon.  One week from Friday is the first day of Fall.  I can't believe it!


Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Like Whoa...

So guess what, as much as I thought I could still hang at 33, I definitely canNOT.

Picture this...

Wedding/Date night Saturday night that turned into a great time, considering I really didn't know many people.  This was Hubs group of friends that we just really don't see very often.  In fact, the last time I saw most of them was at another wedding 5 years ago.

Anyway, we were looking forward to it as we do any night out, just the two of us.  I had a fun new outfit, fantastic new heels (it's not really necessary to wear 4 inch heels when you are already 6'3", but sometimes it just puts a little extra pep in my step, knowwhatI'msayin?') and a spunky hairdo.

Upon conclusion of the wedding, we then continued our little party at the casino.  Necessary to hop into the Hummer limo (with leopard interior and starry ceiling)? No. Ummmm...not a good choice, nor was the decision to keep sipping on vodka to arrive home and in bed by 3:00 am.

Not a good girl.  Not at all.

But we had fun and made some new friends!  So that is what life is all about I guess.  Enjoy the fun times, but just learn to take it easy.  Not necessary to party like a rock star whenever we have a pass, but I'm not sure we'll ever learn.  Ever.  But that's ok.  As my cousin put it, you have to be irresponsible every once in a while.  It keeps us young.  Heehee!

Happy Tuesday!

Friday, September 9, 2011

Land Of The Free, Home Of The Brave

Back in May I wrote about it.  I'm emotional about the subject.  I can't pull away from the coverage.  I still haven't watched the DVR about the children.  I'm just not sure I can.  The children.  Their lives now lived for the past 10 years without a mom or a dad or maybe both.  It simply makes my heart crumble into teeny tiny pieces.

As I think about it, I am still very angry.  However that anger is overcome by my gratitude towards all of the men and women who survived that devastating day.  All of those men and women who spent hours upon days helping one another.

As we approach the anniversary, there are posts, tweets, blogs starting to fill social media about what you were doing, where you were, pictures of NYC, etc.  However, I came across a saying today in a friends pictures on Facebook (he's a retired Firefighter) from the Memorial in New York City and it speaks volumes, Dedicated To Those Who Fell and Those Who Carry On.

It's been 10 years on Sunday.  This weekend make a pledge to yourself to give back in some way.  Volunteer, donate blood, discuss emergency preparedness with your families, do something.  At the end of the day, we need to learn from these "experiences" and realize what we need to do to better our communities.  We can't control outside forces, but we can take control of our selves and our families to be sure we are prepared in the event of an emergency.  We have to think about, we have to talk about it.  It's not going to go away.  I wish that it would.  I don't want to have to explain it to my daughter, but someday I will. 

Hold your families and close ones even closer and be sure to take a moment Sunday to remember those we lost that fateful day.  Remember and Never Forget.

Photo courtesy of shutterstock

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Wordless Thursday

I didn't have a moment to post for Wordless Wednesday, but I was editing some pictures last night and thought I would share some of my favorites from our last Cardinals game of the season (boo on no playoffs).  Go Rams!  Ha!

 So excited to finally meet Fredbird!

 Boo on the fuzziness, but good family shot!

 My girl lovin' on some nachos! My ballpark staple treat :)

 Just being her normal, cute self!

 This picture makes my heart happy!  I love nothing more than seeing these moments
with my Hubs and Mia.  She's clearly becoming a fan!

GO CARDINALS...until next year...

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

It May Be A Smidge Early

For some reason, I am uber excited about Halloween this year.  So much so that I went out this weekend, bought some new decorations for the house and supplies for my tulle Halloween wreath that I saw on Pinterest.  I can't wait to get started.

I LOVE Halloween, always have, and I'm ready for Fall.  Really, really ready.  More so than in years past, that I recall anyway.  This summer has been brutal.  The temperatures were killer.  I'm ready for the leaves to turn and the temperatures to dip.  I'm ready for the windows to be open and the fresh air to fill the house.

Most excitedly, I am looking forward to Mia's Halloween this year.  It will be her first year of trick or treating and I'm super excited about her costume this year.  More on the party details and the costume later, but a big thank you to Kristen over at Little Laws Prints for helping out with her custom invitations this year.  She's awesome and so easy to work with!

Sneaky peeky of some of my decorations so far.  More to come I'm quite sure.

 And the best one...

Today's Kinda Post

So I have a real topic that I'll post this evening, but I just wanted to take a brief moment to tell you how much I do NOT enjoy the remnants of my axxium manicure.  It's chipping and it's all come off of one nail.  I hate chips, hence the reason I often do not wear polish on my fingernails, except for a special occassion..big meeting with the bosses, a wedding, girls night, date dig?

So I hear it comes off with acetone nail polish remover which I purchase over the weekend during an impromptu, need a cute outfit for Mia for a BBQ Target visit.  Have I ever mentioned one of the bonuses of a napping husband?  A trip to Target that he didn't even realize occurred. Awesome.

Anyway, so I finally sit down with my acetone last night...around 8:30...and nothing...nada, zilch, zip.

So I guess I will have to make a visit to the nail salon to have them remove it.  Boo.

Any advice out there on how to do it myself would be much appreciated.

See...left hand.

 See...right hand.

Thursday, September 1, 2011

O to the M to the G

If you follow me on Twitter or on my personal Facebook page you already know, but quick funny from last night.

After dinner, Mia and I were having a pretty intense dance party and she runs up behind me, smacks my butt and says....

"Shake your bootie Mommy!!!" 

Clear as day too. 

Excuse me, but if anyone finds my baby, please let me know.  She seems to have been swapped out with some other human.

O to the M to the G!