Monday, October 15, 2012


I had a post planned (in my head) for today, but I'm going to put that off for a few days because today is an important day for something much more important than anything I had to say.

A very dear friend of mine and I were pregnant at almost the same time.  She with her second, me with my first.  She defines strength and courage in her experience.  I often find the most petty of things to complain about, but at the end of the day, although I have miscarried, my experience holds nothing to what she and her family experienced 3 short years ago.

I could never in a million years come to terms with how I would deal or handle with such a situation and I hope that I never will.

Unfortunately, due to circumstances outside of her control, she lost her baby just weeks shy of her due date. She had gone in for her routine doctors visit to find out her there was no longer a heartbeat.  She had to deliver a stillborn child.

Debbie is an amazing human being.  She turned what was a devastating loss to something much more beneficial and positive.  Through her strength in family and friendship she is reaching out to other families that have experienced similar losses to hers and doing her best to provide them with some comfort during their difficult time.

From the loss of her sweet daughter, Layne Grace, Debbie started Layne's Project.

It's amazing what she has done and I urge you to visit her website to learn more about her story and this special project.

Today would have been Layne's third birthday.  As I watch Mia rapidly approach her upcoming third birthday, this is a amazing reminder of just how lucky and blessed my family and I truly are.

"She would want the best for each of us - 
to see the world a better place.
Let's try our best to make it so
in memory of our Layne Grace.
And though we all have separate lives,
this is what we know for sure, to fully honor 
Layne, we must be the ones to 'fly' for her."
                                             -Layne's Grandpa

I encourage you to help and reach out.

To all my friends who have experienced loss, may you find comfort and healing today and always.

Be sure to light a candle tonight at 7:00 pm for one hour in memory of all our little ones watching over us.


Gina said...

I know three people who have had stillborn babies in the last year and a half. They are all such pillars of strength and my admiration for them is unending.

SEL said...

I'm so sorry both you and your friend have experienced such loss. My heart aches for both of you.

I'll check your friends website. Sounds like she's doing amazing things in her daughters memory.

Great post.


[dianegatorfan] said...

The loss of a child, at any point, is a heartbreak I cannot even imagine. What an amazing spirit your friend has to help others from her pain, and what a sweet heart you have to remember and honor her daughter. Hugs to you both!